Be humble, Be honest

I have been lucky to have met few top level executives during my career. I learned a very good thing from them.
And that is to be "humble". Being humble was one of the reasons they were at those position. They did not have a sense of competition or comparison. They reached that level by the humbleness of their presence.
Being humble matters a lot, everyone will look up to you if you are humble. Your presence will make a difference wherever you go.
It is actually very easy to be humble and I bet you meet excellent people as you are down to earth.
This also allows you to stay on track, you do not get in to a superiority complex. There is a thin line between being confident and having a superiority complex.
Being humble keeps you away from crossing this line and you will always be treated with great deal of respect. Your presence will be accepted at every level.
I have personal experiences of spending time with CEOs and COOs who make you feel so comfortable. They have uncanny ability to bring best out of everyone.
I love being humble because it makes life very simple, removes a great deal of struggle from your life. People around you see possibilities instead of threat in you.
Having said the above, you must believe in having a self worth. The idea is to have the right balance and do not go to any extreme.
For example, if you are software developer and you solved an issue which entire was trying to solve for few days, there is nothing wrong in treating that as self worth. While being aware that it does not make you any superior to others. It should rather give you a sense of satisfaction and you should gladly accept the praise from the team.
9 out of 10 times, being humble will also allow you to be honest. Both have a deep connection. The only difference is honest has a degree of honesty in it ;)
To sum it up, the way to success when you have the basics like talent, attitude right, being humble is the way to grow above and beyond.

Relationships

You meet so many people in life, some come and go, some come and stay.
Relationships are a significant part of our lives because that forms a major portion of our time spend in our lives. A good relationship is born out of love and freedom. There has been a personal experience that real relations are made by you and not earned by birth.
Birth gives you relatives and not relationships. Of course you can build good relationship with them.
For me relationship comes with a spark. People say love at first sight, for me it's intuition at first site. It's like "iske saath apna jamne wala hain ;)"
Very recently, I met COO of a big company. He had met several people with some real good talent but he still could not convince him of hiring any of them for the purpose because the spark was missing. This spark is actually his intuition towards the people he met.
Let's jump back to freedom in the relationship. Why is friendship such a good relationship?
Have you ever noticed that probability of a friend feeling bad about anything is the lowest?
The main reason is because there is freedom in friendship. It's one of the most beautiful relationships.
Even within friends, I have noticed some are close to heart even though they are physically distant and we hardly meet in person. When you meet them even after year or so, you get talking as if you meet him daily. These are your real friends and they won't feel bad if you haven't called them in a while ;) (yeah but you should be in touch, it means a great deal in life).
The true relationship has freedom, more the freedom, better the relationship.
Less the expectation better the relationship.
"Go on and earn good relationship, it will make you very rich in life."

Life is a game, Play it Easy!

New turns in life are amazing. Yesterday was at a party and somehow there was no craving for the food. I begin to wonder - A world without cravings. It would definitely make life worth more living as there would be a sense of freedom. Well, easier said then done in the city life where you need to be worthy enough to live a stupendous life.
I am getting more into my senses, healing the anxiety within me for anything and everything. There is a thin line between enthusiasm and anxiety, isn't it?
I want to be more peaceful and watchful going forward. Not trying to be happy always but just trying to BE irrespective of the circumstances.

Pay it Forward

Pay it forward

A lot has been written about the big bad and mean world of today. Much ink has been used to describe how indifferent we have become to people around us. I, however, choose to see a different side. We all know that a small act of kindness can go a long way in transforming someone’s life. I will show you people actually living by it.

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Spread the good word, and the kindness, people. I know you want to do it :)

Truth Vindicated Series - Social Conditioning

Truth Vindicated -
(Most of the portion of this post comes from one of my dearest friend Sameer, so kudos to him for the same)

Social Conditioning

Ready steady Go! HimK in 2nd position, Knight rider in 1st position and Foxy P in last position.
HimK has taken the lead is in 1st position and Knight rider is now at 2nd position. This is the final furlong and its looks like a close race. Oh no! it’s getting too excitingggggg....dunno who is going to win? It’s a photo finish, and only one winner!

That’s how I was born.

It wasn’t three horses-- it was a race with almost 3 million sperms that I had to defeat in a race lasting 30 seconds. It was the scariest moments in my life. You cannot imagine the relief I went through as I entered the egg and as I looked back into the distance, I shed a tear for the millions of my brothers or sisters that did not make it and perished along the way.

31 years later, and I am awaiting birth of my 2nd kid. Yeah, again a winner will be born.

Many of us are still in the race. We actually never realized that we have already won. We still fight for our place in society, trains, buses, office. We all are still a sperm. I know most of the you will revolt when you read it. But ask a person who has just lost his job, I bet he will agree that he is fighting for his place. So let’s look at the sperms we have around us. CEO in his nice cabin looking to keep his position, Sperm!, Foot ball player running after the ball, Sperm!, Politician, Looking to keep his seat, Sperm!. (While many of us may not realize that we are still fighting for our space simply because things may come easy to us that do not mean we are not part of it). The social conditioning has gone beyond limits so that we are in constant race in our life.

But I have revolted to this social conditioning. I was born a winner and the race is over. I have won the biggest race of life, and that is to be born. So do not tell me that I still have to struggle for everything.

I think this fear of loss of egg (in our first ever race) is so intrinsic that it immediately manifests when we see something which is scarce and may people are trying to obtain it. It is one of the most difficult things to let go in life. It’s funny however, when I see wealthy people in India and abroad showing the sperm mentality. Nothing is ever enough. The first step I think would be to realise that it exists. Every time you are struggling for that promotion (SPERM!), every time you are fighting over a girl/guy (SPERM!), every time you rush into a train (SPERM!), every time you have to explain to your manager for coming late (SPERM!).

So in someway or the other you will see that 95% of you is because of social conditioning. For e.g. We are made to believe that only doctor’s can treat our illness, Only pain killers can cure headaches, Only English medium schools are good for our kids, Information in the news papers is the ultimate truth, so on and so forth. There is a huge difference between reality (truth) and perception (social conditioning).
The scarcity which exists today cannot be explained in material terms. As I said before nothing is enough when it comes to material world. In spiritual world, I am sure there is plenty for everyone. Just imagine that you have won biggest race in semi-formed state, in a fully formed state, unimaginable power holds.

We are born to enjoy every moment of life; that is the only truth. Now how this would be believed by a child who has just lost his parents in the bomb blast. Again, in material terms, I have no explanation. In spiritual world, the child has learned the biggest lesson of his life that he is here to love himself and that death is the only other reality then life. More often then not we miss the lessons we are meant to learn due to an event. This is purely due to social conditioning.
Yes, I am going too far to blame social conditioning because it is the culprit. Believe me in spite of knowing the culprit; it is difficult to get out of it. But as said before if I won the biggest race of life, I know I can do it and I will do it.

Goals, Desires etc

We live direction less life currently. There is no direction to it.
Often, we say this is my goal in life. It will either be an end point or career related etc.
But we never think beyond it. What is beyond it?
Beyond it is a harsh reality called "death".
If we build our goals as an end point, we often invite bad times.
Take for example a CEO of a small company, he will desire to make his company big. For the same he works, overworks
and in the end screw his own life. He does not realize that the life is too short for him to grow his company. He forgets his identify, he becomes the company. That is where the error lies. Our choices are wrong, Our goals are wrong.