Father Said "Once my daughter is married, I will be happy"
Mother said "Once my son becomes doctor, I will be happy"
Student said "I will enjoy once the exams get over"
Software Developer said "I will have blast once this project is delivered"
Pregnant Women said "I will be happy once I get a healthy Baby"
Enterpreneur said "Let's party when we get funded"
Businessmen said "This deal must go through and then we will be happy"
House Wife said "Once my morning work is over, I will be happy"
Bagpacker said "My trip to Leh was the happiest moment of my life"
Husband said "I really enjoyed my bachelor life"
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Buddha said "I am happy here now".
So most of us are always happy either in the past or future and need a reason to be happy. Being happy is simple in present.
There is no reason needed to be happy. There are going to be problems but problems should never be related to your happiness. Easier said then done.
So be happy here now, put on a smile ;)
On the trip to delhi -
I was on a trip to Delhi and on the way back to airport took a cab. Our cab was just slowed down by a cycle rickshaw, the cab driver shouted and then literally hit the cycle rickshaw from behind.
The Cycle rickshaw guy protested that he needs time to give side then the cab driver just got off with all bad words, ready to hit the cycle rickshaw guy.
Above is an event triggered reaction (1).
Yesterday -
A chevrolet spark was hit by a pick up van in our building. The lady in chevrolet spark got wild and hit the guy, broke his mirror. After a while the owner of the pick up van came and settled the matter in some way. The scratch fix would have costed about INR5000 approximately or less. This is again event triggered reaction (2)
Back to the trip to Delhi -
I was with owner of a mid size company in almost brand new Hyundai Verna. On the way to his office, while we were stationary, a qualis taking a turn scratched his bumper. The guy pulled down the mirror and said "Bhai saab, jara dekhe ke turn maro". The other fellow replied "traffic tha galti se ho gaya". The guy quickly rolled up the mirror and told me that there is nothing much you can do even if you fight with the other guy irrespective of who was at fault.
This is event triggered reaching (3).
The realization I had was that the guy who spend minimum time fighting knew that it is not worth his time spending on it and he was the richest guy of all 3 in the above incidences.
The realization is that your reactions has potential to decide your fate.
We face such situations in your daily life at work place, home, travelling and so on. The knowing of your reaction and a subtle control (control is no the right word) is real spritiualism. It is this awareness that is above and beyond the natural reaction. Knowing your reaction is changing the default to defined.
If the taxi guy had not got down to hit the other fellow, we would not have lost the time.
If the lady had just calmly asked that this needs to be fixed by your owner, neither driver or lady should have to spend the time fighting (in turn mental imbalance) for it and reaching the same result.
